Hi everyone, I am writing this while sitting in my car waiting for my next lesson. I’ve been working really hard all week teaching and creating piano videos. It has been tough, but I love what I do. And I wouldn’t trade it for the world.
Something interesting happened this week and I can’t decide if it’s because I constantly have let people walk all over me. Have you ever felt taken advantage of because you look younger or because people don’t view you as capable? I think this is the story of my life. I am constantly looked down upon by people in my life and I don’t like it. I don’t want to be the victim in this story, but I have to stand up for myself. I’m not saying “woe is me.” I want to find the silver lining in my own story. If I can somehow stop this from happening again, then I can finally move on from everything that has happened.
I have a student that is a child of my friend’s friend. We’re not really too close and our entire closeness is only be wise I teach their child the piano. I have been teaching their child for more than 2-3 years now. It has been awhile and I can honestly say that their child is a great student. They are nice and polite to me always.
I went to their house for our usual lesson this week. They weren’t home. Their house isn’t too far from my previous Student’s house. It’s about a 15 minute drive from the other house. It’s not a lot of miles, but some may consider it a decent distance. I parked right outside the house and I texted their grandpa that I was there at the house. They texted me that they were sorry and that they weren’t home. It was okay for me. However, since gas prices have increased, I have felt the need to still ask for payment when I make the drive and they’re not home. For all of my students, they will pay me the full lesson price even when they miss the lesson. I don’t always ask, but they pay me anyways. It’s a trust that I have worked so hard to build for many years.
This time however, the parent refused to pay me the full lesson price. They said that they will only pay half. I was torn with what to do about the missing lesson. I want to maintain the relationship that I have with the parents, but I am hurt by how they don’t respect me. I did not miss the lesson. Driving, planning, bringing materials, registering them for the appropriate examinations, and making lesson plans takes effort on my part. And it’s not just showing up to teach. Teachers work tirelessly to make things happen for their students. And on the other hand, I want to drop them immediately as clients. I don’t depend on them for my income because I can always obtain new students. I have more than enough students in my studio and losing one doesn’t affect me at all. Even more importantly, they are using my discounted rate. It is 50% of my usual rate. And they still can’t pay me for the full hour that I wasted.
I ended up sitting in my car on another empty street in the neighborhood for an hour. It wasn’t worth the gas and time to drive back home and then to drive back. I was wondering to myself how I let myself to be treated like this. Even if I continue to teach them, I will always have this thought at the back of my mind about how they treated me. I will keep everyone updated on what happens. I have to go to my next lesson now. Thank you so much for reading and I appreciate it a lot.